Asking Ourselves Those Difficult Questions
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Dear Jim, thank you for reminding us to think about the important questions even when we are not ill. Problems like job,economy,family always seem to be there and change all the time for most of us. It does not make it eazier to deal with when you become ill, but I can see that you already have what very few people have: a supportive and loving family . The answers to weather it is worth it lies within ourselves. If it is valuable to you than it is worth everything. When illness comes upon a loved member of family then it deeply affects everyone around. If it is hard at moments we must not forget that this also changes if we deal with it seriously, that is to talk about it with our loved ones. It would help both of you to relive stress and that is very important to be open . Your wife knows what you must be going through but she has also lot of things that she needs to express within all your illness. That would release a lot of tension and give an opportunity to find good solutions for both of you. The answers to these questions are very individuall and are burried deep in our selves and that is the place we will find them . To you and your family best wishes for Christmas and a Happy New Year Olivera
Jim, have you considered looking for a business partner to share your startup ideas with, one with sufficient capital to help fund the business? And as for living for another 30 years, many in our age group look forward to their children marrying, have children of their own. Some of us may possibly retire although maybe not for another ten years or more. Others do volunteer work, have hobbies, assuming they have saved enough to live on. Many haven't given it a thought, but you have.continue to seek out people with ideas, support groups where people have overcome illness like yours and offer roadmaps to a "successful" life.
Dear Jim I read your blog on your cancerous life and it touches me a lot. God knows all answers to whatever problem we have. We shall continue praying to Him for you so that one day He will relieve you from the pain and be normal again. Do not lose hope. Thank you for telling the world.
Hi Jim, Two of my neighbours have undergone surgery for bowel cancer in the last year or so whereas I'd been diagnosed with leukaemia. All of us have good reason to be positive about our futures, since in both cases there has been considerable improvement in treatment over recent years. In the most recent case, a younger man who I learned saw my pragmatism as some kind of inspiration. Yet I know that the pain, indignity and treatment side effects for him would have been something I'd find harder to cope with. I had a far easier ride. I spent the afternoon with him setting out our local community plan survey which we'd by coincidence both agreed to take the lead on before our illnesses. We've got some interesting sustainable development ideas and there's no question that we're not just going to make them happen, but be around for may more years to enjoy the outcome.
Dear Jim, Thank you so much for relating to us your personal struggle with your cancer! I really hope, you will recover from the chemotherapy soon and that you're body will be strong enough to auto regulate your health problems. Try to find a Chinese doctor to find out if there are better ways thanks to herbal medicine to strengthen your body! Wish you strength and happiness as well as long life and better health! Have a great and happy time! Best, - Lucas Join The Swiss Business Club - Join the GuanXi Game Club - Join the Risk Consulting Club - And Join Doing Business Virtually!
Hello Jim. I am sorry to read of your tough time and that pain is remaining a problem. On the financial side of things, a whole extra worry one doesn't need when poorly, do you already know George Emsden, a member here and an independent IFA who specialises in advice for cancer sufferers...he's been poorly himself in the past...
Dear Mr Tuffin, Cheers up! I' ve read your blog and send you all the Chi power to you from Japan! Being a three-time cancer survivor, I'm doing just fine and living forwardly for an even more brighter future! This's just the matter of your living style. Nothing gained by thinking backwardly! and worrying about your negative things around you. Keep your spirit up and endeavor for a better life to come. And believe it will come true! Live strong and passionately as I do! Kiyoshi Nagata Japanese Cancer Survivor, 3 Times! in Chiba, Japan
Hi Jim, I'm sorry to hear your news, but would like to respond. I guess I need to say up front, that I really can't empathise with your situation, since I don't believe that's possible for anyone to do. So I won't pretend that I can. However, I do know what it's like to have a future with no hope. I spent 35 years of my life as an Epileptic and know the pain of never knowing what tomorrow will bring. At 15 years old, I left school, believing that there was no future and no hope of any future for me. At the point of having 20 seizures a day, I was an invalid pensioner, unable to work or be left alone at any point. We lived on the smell of an oily rag making the rounds of the shopping centres to pick up the "freebies" so we woould have enough for dinner that night - life was pretty tough. My life was unpredictable and with falling down stairs, off railway platforms, and falling down in the middle of busy streets, the fear of death was a constant companion. At one point in my darkest hours, I made a conscious decision that I had two choices - I could either curl up in the corner and be defeated by my condition, or I could rise above it and beat it. My decision was to beat it and never be its victim. Eventually, things became so bad for me, that I decided I would risk having radical brain surgery, despite the fact that it was unproven and I knew I could die or be left a vegetable. Having been completely cured, I can now look back on the experience with a different perspective. Life is very fragile and we can't predict what tomorrow might bring. My surgery was only 15 years ago, so my life is basically only 15 years old. Through my experience I have learned to love every moment of life I have and to pack everything into it. My advice would be, don't even think about what might or might not be; go for it and make the very best of what you have. Since my surgery, my moto has become "Live life like there's no tomorrow, but plan like you're going to live forever". The ONLY reality we have in life is the moment in which we live right now; make the most of it; start your new business like you're going to have forever to run it; don't worry about tomorrow - it will take care of itself. See this as a challenge to be conquered, not a burden to be borne. I hope this doesn't sound trite, but it does come out of real, painful experience. All the best mate. Hang in there. Regards, Barry
Jim what an honest and powerful blog. One of the things it highlights for me is the effect on our income when we are sick for a long time. Most self-employed people I speak with have no insurance to cover loss of earnings and would be insolvent very quickly if they became seriously ill. I hope 2012 is brighter for you. Kind regards Nic Connect - Engage - Share www.nic-oliver.com email twitter linkedin
Hi Jim Wow, great job on how you've handled this. What an enormous thing to experience in your life, and you've taken the bull by the horns. Chemo is quite the learning curve. Are you mostly out of the woods now? How much longer do you have to go with your course? Reassessing your business shape is really important. With so many of the "employment refugees" now setting up for themselves, it's a good time to align your working style and business form with your highest true values. Your integrity will shine out and work can be a format to showcase and share what you know. Cancer can be isolating. From my experience (clinical hypnotherapy for medicine) I would offer that the more you feel you work 'with' people, as you say 'give back', the more you will feel reintegrated and this will have a positive influence on your immune system. If you Google hypnotherapy in oncology you can find out a little more about this, or feel free to contact me about aligning your work choices for sustainable wellbeing. All the best, and well done Very best Jenny Glanville Jenny Glanville is an executive hypnosis coach. She helps clients find their optimal ways of working, digging deep into their potential and pulling out their natural qualities to rise to the level of their challenges. This method radically builds self-understanding to overcome blocks and blind spots, whilst building on strengths, and imbuing a sense of passion, purpose, and practical self-fulfillment. With self-awareness comes choice, flexibility and accuracy in responding to the unexpected. www.EthicalHypnotist.com http://www.ethicalhypnotist.com/#/corporate/4552037828 07540 998 187 - firstname.lastname@example.org Specialities: One to One Coaching One to One Strategic Hypnotherapy Team Coaching Bespoke training Facilitation Performance Management Health Support - HR
Dear Jim A lot of questions. There is not one answer. You will find a huge package of answers to it. You have a multiple choice and have to pick up your own. But I assume you are on the doorstep of philosophic approach and you will find your way. My personal view is don't focus on money or business success but feel the satisfaction that you are a value for someone else. I like to discuss this further with you if you are interested. Greetz from Praha(dise) Guy Prof. Guy Van Elsacker Dr.Sc. Director SCIBURDI Project