Is there a future for the online world if we don't protect the users? #DBBM

In my position as a co-owner and Founder of a network with hundreds of thousands of members I feel huge responsibility for the experience of everyone within it.

It was in 2004 that we really started to feel the responsibility of this and I wrote this Blog Ethics/ethos at Ecademy
which has over 23,000 views and over 80 comments now.

The result was that we created a Charter 'Ecademy Community Values'

I think this was a critical part of our history as this helped the members at the time know what to expect and what not to tolerate and as a result, on the whole, Ecademy has remained a 'good place' where anyone who treats someone badly or 'bullies' soon gets advised that this does not work on Ecademy. I see this as the same way that we would manage any community, even a family. "Understand what it means to belong and respect those people who have made their commitment to each other".

I feel deeply about the opportunity that lies within the Internet for business and for humanity, but I live a life of fear most days for the way that people are being hurt and how abusive this online world can be.

We take this responsibility very seriously in Ecademy, so much so that we have made extremely tough decisions in the past when we have been made aware of abuse, bullying and harassment. The legacy of some of these decisions lives on, but I will never regret them.

Since 2004 FaceBook has become stronger, I have been shocked by their lack of values and ethos and feel it is time that there was a statement about what behavior is acceptable between members.

In the past I have seen the way my children have been targeted, and we have all heard the terrible news that suicides have taken place due to bullying. What is so shocking is the amount of bullying that goes on between adults even in a business environment. My children are amazed when they witness or read that adults can be bullies too!

There isn't a week that goes by that someone doesn't ask my advice on how to handle a problem on the Internet or a news items doesn't hit the papers.

Stalking through networks is becoming more and more common. I have someone doing this at the moment on my mobile phone and it is very distressing to say the least.

Over the weekend, I received an email from a very close contact who said she was considering taking her own life due to the way she is being stalked and her reputation is being damaged by the stalker. Today in the Daily Telegraph an ex-TV presenter talks about death threats being made by a 'cyber' stalker.

Unless you have been at the end of stalkers who hunt you like prey through Google Alerts and chose to make your life hell you will not know the damage it does to you. It is one thing being stalked but also imagine this 'stalker' being determined to ruin your livelihood. This is the reality of adult 'cyber-bullying'. It becomes very personal when they are preventing you from feeding your family.

When I contacted Vodafone about my 'stalker' the girl was desperate to get me off the phone and her best suggestion was that I changed by mobile number. A mobile number I have had for 15 years and provides my link to clients and members. I became the victim through their attitude. I asked if there was any counseling service offered. The answer was 'no', she suggested I spoke to the Police and basically gave the responsibility to the Tax payer to fund an investigation.

This is a very difficult aspect of the Internet but it is only going to get worse. If ethics and values are not explained and a culture is not clear within an organisation that makes it's money out of 'citizens of their country' then as a 'global network' we could see a place where the 'bad and angry' survive, but the meek stay away and become more isolated.

Thankfully there are more incredibly good people on the Internet than there is bad, and you could say that it is the same in the terrestrial world, however, the viral and public nature of the Internet gives the bullies and the stalkers a fabulous flow for their cruel intentions.

So my question to you is this..

What do you think the responsibility of the 'network' owners should be and how could they protect their members and ensure that the good promise of this 'connected world' is achieved?



Warm regards
Penny Power
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Robert Oosthout

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Penny, Live by being an example and I know you are. Don't put any energy into misconduct of others. The Ecademy Community Values are great and they give us guidance. If someone chooses not to abide by them he or she knows the consequences and you/we have to disconnect these people from the network, because if you don't they know that you/we don't mind not being taken serious. If we don't why should others? Robert Oosthout Solicitor & Mediator Call me on +31 626 902 545

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Robert Oosthout

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Penny, I read your story and you know you can't be victimized unless you are open to it. One more thing I want to share with you. Mohandas K. Ghandi, the former Prime Minister of India hated protocol. He said something like: Listen if a person wants to kill you he will succeed. The question is do you let yourself be distracted from your work by a threath. I trust in God to protect me and if it is my time it is my time. It is a matter of what you focus on expands. Robert Oosthout Solicitor & Mediator Call me on +31 626 902 545

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Penny Power

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Just reflecting on this Blog again in the light of the problems that are being faced by the Injunction of a footballer against his identity being known. I wonder to myself where people will go to ensure that they are among people they can trust online? warm regards Penny Power Founder of Ecademy and Ecademy Digital School Helping you build social capital in your business and life Follow @pennypower I support:  

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John Boone

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Great Blog Penny.. The best way to protect us is to educate us with blogs and articles that will make us take notice and become aware of situations that could possible happend. People need to try not to log on so many sites. There are many things that can happend nowadays. I just read an article on how Pictures have GPS in them on your mobile and anybody can track you and find out where you are at that moment. Can even find out if you are home or not. Thats just Scary!!!! Blogs, Articles, and Webinars on how to protect yourself from internet stalkers/bullies. www.dandjtaxxservices.com

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Rana Roy

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Emma Callaghan

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Hi Penny, I think your comments are very apt, I've been hearing a lot about the security of your information once it goes into cyber space. I have shied away from putting anything too personal out there that I would regret simply because you lose full ownership of that information or comment as soon as you hit send. I think more should be done to allow people to track and recall information or pictures about themselves and certainly to have the right to take on those who misuse that info if that happens. Thanks for a very informative blog. Emma Inner Smile - Brighter Business Coaching T: 0800 084 8034 M: 07595 743447 Skype: emma.callaghan75 www.inner-smile.co.uk

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Nighet Nasim Riaz

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A case of online bullying - where does it start and where does it finish? Sometimes what we say and what we do are at totally different ends of the spectrum. Sometimes if someone doesn't meet expectations, or asks too many questions, their using any platform is made so untenable that they have no other option but to leave. Sometimes some people have to be made to answer for their behaviour, whoever they maybe. N N Riaz nnriaz@googlemail.com

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Mark Sinclair

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Here's what Thomas Power says about online bullying and stalking

From an interview we did with Thomas just last week - this is a message to business leaders, captains of industry, movers and shakers ... about bullying and stalking. _____________________________________ . Mark Sinclair, Founder, yourBusinessChannel Connect with me however you like.  Or simply watch one of over 1,200 FREE shows featuring business people and top tier experts.  If you're looking for more help, the yBC Results Team offers a low risk way to help with your business development.

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Melinda M. Sörensson

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What a shocking news for your friend who is being stalked. I hope she will be fine, Penny. In my opinion, the website owners really do not have a lot of choice in this matter. Everywhere this could happen in every website... Short of profiling the members, which can be done at very high cost, the main responsibility lies with the person joining. Thank you for bringing it up. It is important. Warm regards, Melinda Melinda M. Sorensson, Ph.D. Author, My Journey to An Integrated Life Co Administrator, Manifesting Magical Moments Self Growth Expert Ezine Articles Expert Author

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John Gelmini

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The internet is about to go to 3d just like televisions are beginning to do and there are attempts started by China and Kevin Rudd(the former Prime Minister in Australia )to regulate the internet. However too much regulation will destroy it,s ability to be used as a wealth creation platform for the super rich or as a way for people to create businesses in Western economies which are incapable of providing enough jobs for their people. At present as any O level economics student knows you need 3% economic growth to create full employment and the UK since 1946 has produced an average of 1.4%. With most of our manufacturing gone and our state education system 47th in the world our workers lack the language skills and drive for the most part,to seek employment outside of the UK. The average British male now purchases his first house at the age of 37 if he can get finance and our workers are 15th in the world for productivity with public sector workers 40% productive and private sector workers 60% productive(88 working days out of 220 and 132 out of 220 respectively) Faster broadband and the internet in a non regulated form or lightly regulated form represent one of the few ways in which people can pull themselves up by their bootstraps and create their own jobs. Heavy regulation in the context of our economy which is bankrupt in all but name would mean that many more people would be forced into poverty and crime within no go areas whilst the affluent lived in gated and guarded communities. As for knowledge,the gap between the informed and the uninformed is getting wider even though more people are wising up. The internet via 100 specialist sites assists people like me with this process but does not fully close the gap because much of the really powerful data is retained by Governments and the Vatican in the same way as the ancient mystery schools.

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Thomas Power

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Mark Sinclair

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Mark Sinclair

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Lucia Asnaghi

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Very wise words. I share your sentiment. We must care for each other. Lucia Asnaghi

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Rajen Business & Digital Coach & Mentor Kantaria

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Good points Andrew. However, things change. They evolve. They get adapted. The original inventor no longer has control. So I would say the Citizens can take over and define the boundaries surely?! And make the future......ultimately into balance...... Rajen Kantaria Customer Interaction We Put Businesses On Line With Their Customers

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Sushil Kumar

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Sushil Kumar,S Dear Penny, This is a Question thats been troubling All Network Sites for many years past and will continue to bother U for many more years . I would say, every site has an 'obligation & a responsibility' towards its members...and that is to put it tritely -"Protect their 'INTERESTS' as linked to the Sites Primary Objectives"....Am I clear in my thinking?...I dont think I need explain this....Sushil.

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Martin Dewhurst

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Life : Is there a future for the offline world if we don't protect the women and children? It's the same issue Penny only worse. I too am sorry about the challenges you faced, I think it comes with the territory of stepping up to make a difference, which you have done. Remember the event in Manchester when the teachers shared their experience of challenges they faced in the schools and the resistance from the local authorities? remember the tears when we heard their challenges were all around them and the inspiration that followed as we learned how they faced the challenges and won over their metaphorical demons? The experience you had with Vodafone is symptomatic of a world where "we" act as though someone else's problems are not our problems, as though the fact we cannot see each other means I can treat you as though you do not exist. To break this cycle we have to be brave enough to own the change we wish to see, to lead by example, to risk sticking our necks out, to risk upsetting an outdated norm for the sake of breaking new ground and shifting the status quo. I have sat relatively quiet on this topic when weighed against the experiences I had on numerous visits there, however, as you will have read in my posts of late, I have had to step up a gear and speak out, to do everything within my power to find a way of amplifying their call from afar. My belief is that you already have the answers about how to handle this latest challenge, your heart provides them all. My challenge to you is to reach out now further than the business world, further than you feel comfortable with and touch for a moment the world my friends are experiencing right now, cut off, ignored, isolated, hungry, cold, concerned for their children, worried for their grandparents, without food, water and medicines ... Do you see? we have to make both worlds work is unison and one becomes a reflection of the other, the more we do the better things become, the more we win personal battles against the part of ourselves that ignores when it wants to care, that shuts off when it could be listening that dismisses when it could be embracing. All will be fine Penny, especially when we make it so. Martin

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Peter Travers

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Hi Penny, Sorry to hear that you have been harasssed in this way ! No immediate solution comes to mind as how to combat what must be for you a distressing situation and I can only offer my sympathy. The the possible option to give up a long held mobile phone number is a pain ! Kind regards, Peter T

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Lucas Wyrsch

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Dear Penny, The Internet is public, it's open and you have to be aware about how much you disclose to the public! Just have a look on this video: Have a great and prosperous time! Best - Lucas Join The Swiss Business Club - Join the GuanXi Game Club - Join the Risk Consulting Club - And Join Doing Business Virtually!

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Rajen Business & Digital Coach & Mentor Kantaria

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Agree with you Eileen. The important starting point is to admit to the situation openly and report it so that the matter can be dealt with, support given and the extent of the problem in a network can be known. As many comments suggest the extent will be of varying severity and "counter abuse" should be avoided although in most cases the outcome will be fairly easy to resolve. Once again it is matter of dealing an on line matter in an off line context.......because it is people who are involved after all and in the end analysis the same characteristics apply to the abusing, bullying, stalking etc although more in mental context than physical, unless it is an extreme situation where both could apply. But that is not something that the administrators can deal with I suggest. Only outside agencies can and Ecademy can have a contact point to that agency to facilitate that process. Ecademy should be lauded for having the published policies and processes to deal with abuses up to the point where outside agencies may need to get involved.Good Practice is all it and other like minded social networks can do apart from supporting/guiding/counselling any member affected in the serious category if they so wish. A suggestion. Maybe the outside agency can do an article for the next newsletter? Rajen Kantaria Customer Interaction We Put Businesses On Line With Their Customers

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Jeff Drust

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Thanks Penny Someone may have mentioned this already but as I don't have time to read the 70 comments already made, please just ignore this if it has been expressed already. I don't know for sure but I think telephone stalking (and those heavy breathers) pretty much disappeared with the introduction of caller ID - so too the removal of anonymity might fix many of the same kinds of problem on the internet. I think ecademy has done this within its membership. Of course there are tradeoffs - if the internet were changed to remove anonymity that could have the downside of limiting those who use it for expression in non-free speech environments. best.. Jeff

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Eileen Le Rossignol

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I detest all kinds of bullying whether of a child or an adult, these days the internet seems to have taken on the mantle of the press, intrusive, harrassing, incorrect or outright untrue and above all hurtful and damaging to individuals who do not deserve it. It is very hard to protect everyone on the internet which makes education so important. Education should be for everyone not just children. CEOPS (Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre) provide great training and materials. I help both children and adults understand what can happen to them on the internet but I think we need more than education because once any form of bullying starts it can begin to reduce your self esteem as well as scare you. While some of us can educate we need others to help people who start on the downward spiral of loss of confidence. We need to encourage everyone to 'out' the bullies. It will take more than tax payers money to do this. It will take a groundswell of GOOD, HONEST, OPEN, SUPPORTIVE users of the internet to form a global support community and let it be known around the world that we won't take harrassment and bullying and that if anyone finds themselves in that situation they can find support and advice from good people. Why not start a forum on Ecademy where we can start to reach out in our own community, even if it is just to say you have someone good to talk to if you need it? Penny stay positive. We must find a way to make bullies words and actions ineffective. Bullies hide behind the internet, they are not brave, they are not clever, they must not be allowed to affect our lives. Eileen

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Kathryn Roberts

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This is an interesting post and there is no excuse for bullies anywhere .I totally agree with many of the comments and views of the post. Systems must be in place in terms of a duty of care to the users of social/business networks to protect and establish a basis of sound conduct. Kath Roberts http://www.alchemy4thesoul.com/blog Don't survive...thrive and be unstoppable!

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Rajen Business & Digital Coach & Mentor Kantaria

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Looking through one of the posts suggests an idea. The post was about photos. But please remember you will never know if it is the correct photo!! I have seen photos of people with magnificent cars in the background who are not thge person in that photo!! So how about having a verified ID logo going beyond what Ecademy has. Not sure without discussions as to what form thiis might take. Then you know you will be dealing with approved ID persons. Also the amount of info at first sight on personal profiles should be limited although a determined person will soon find out whatever is on line about that person. However, the visitors will always be identifiable. Of course, there are some in the on line world who try and break a system the more rules they see it but this way at least they may be tracable if required. However, this is not in itself going to stop abuses and stalking - but that will be a fact of life as in off line.. Rajen Kantaria Customer Interaction We Put Businesses On Line With Their Customers

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Mick Say

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There is a fine line I think between an out-and-out bully and a person who may not be blessed with empathy, and then speaks his or her (misguided) mind without thought or care for the damage they do. We have a few members in Ecademy who really are bullies and in my opinion they should be ejected from the platform and all of their bullying blogs and comments should be removed. I am a very tolerant person but I do not want to be bullied (and have been) and more, I do not want to see my friends suffer at the hands of the bullies. Police the NetworkShould the Ecademy leadership set up an independent review board who would sit possibly monthly to review complaints from members about bullying or any other action unbecoming of fellow members? The Network Police? - If it was up to me they would be Judge Dread type characters surfing the web to seek out the nastiest people and sentence them to life without computers or the ability to connect. But in reality and in question to Ecademy the independent review board should have the power to remove members and their offending content. Regards - Mick See our Company Pages on FaceBook a Mini Website inside FaceBook Mick Saywww.onlinemarketingacademy.uk.com We Specialise in Meaningful web 2.0 Website Design and Hosting.We Create Online Marketing Platforms Developed for the Social WebCall me : 0044 7719 061 835 Email: mick@micksay.com

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William Buist

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It is a real challenge and you raise some important issues Penny. There's inevitably differences that occur between people and the written word is absolutely appalling at resolving those differences. Two key things differentiate the interaction on and off line. Off Line misunderstandings are 'caught' and corrected quickly, a quizzical look or some anger can be seen and/heard in the voice, and corrected before it develops, On-line they remain to be re-read and (re)-(mis)-interpreted. Memory online is absolute, unchanging and easily recalled, off line it's variable, transient, and easily forgotten. What's clear is that when it happens it's not what is in the public areas that does the damage,, the phone calls, the comments elsewhere, the private messages, the twitter messages, emails, etc etc. All individually benign in appearance but which collectively contribute to bullying hatred. We know that what is difficult i that when action has to be taken others only see the elements that they have seen, often mild in isolation, perhaps not even apparently connected. Multi site, multi connectedness means multiple opportunities to hone in on an individual and make their life hell. When that happens it's not a childish response to seek escape - perhaps even in the extreme way - just as it's not evidence of adulthood or bravery when you stand up against it. It's for each of us I think to tolerate it less and less, but recognise too that there are two sides to everything and that both victim and perpetrator are both people, with families, lovers friends and children, who love and care for them deeply. Who we need to care for and nurture or we lose an element of our own humanity too. It's about finding the appropriate guidelines and approach and accepting that when its applied that its fair even when we cannot see the detail. As Spock said, there are times when the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few, or the one. A sensible, consistent code of conduct and mutually (community wide) agreed sanctions makes good sense to me. William Buist Ecademy, Learning, networking and business development for the digital age.

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Stella Holman "The Connector"

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Rajen. Ecademy does have the Best Practice Team to sort out issues on this site. Best wishes Stella Holman-TheConnector . Let's connect! at the CONNECTOR-TRADING CLUB #CONNECTOR-TRADING GROUP Twitter and Facebook Marketing http://plancast.com/stellaholman Social Media Assistant -UK Representative - Geert Conard Management Solutions UK Agent for BGifts | Belgian Gifts & Incentives Would you like to save money on better TRAVEL?

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Rajen Business & Digital Coach & Mentor Kantaria

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We can carry the idea forward and have an on line "Victim Support" group......on line forum or club (intra if necessary) where information can be exchanged, support/tips given AND maybe a solution found for dealing with this matter or persons. It will not be possible to eliminate it or not experience it. Most incidences are probably by people who are known or connected and cloak their identity but in my view if the person is "unmasked" it usually stops by he or she knowing that he or she has been found out. I accept this takes time and effort and quite a few anxieties in the process, especially if you are unaware or are unprepared to expect it. The world we are surfing in may be virtual but it real people who are doing this. There are ways of tracing back to connect the two and hold the real person responsible.if legally required to. If the Good stand up and show the Bad will shy away. Most people are Good! . Rajen Kantaria Customer Interaction We Put Businesses On Line With Their Customers

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David Simpson

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Hi Penny, I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing these horroble difficulties online. I thought it would have been a problem that mainly women faced until I read some of the posts above. I've experienced it on my mobile (Ghanian "Diplomat" keeps phoning me) & although I see it as an annoyance rather than a threat, it does appear that the police, vodafone etc can't/won't do anything about it. Something needs to be done but I'm always wary of legislating for the lowest common denominater, if you understand what I mean. We have rules & laws in the offline world so that society can function, the same should apply online. Can we have an online cyber police force funded by the ISP's/Social sites and regulated by a central body? I see it fraught with problems & have a natural aversion to more government intervention. Intuatively, I feel that self-regulation is the only effective way forward & I'd be prepared to help you in any way I can to achieve this. David Simpson. MCIM, MLIA(Dip) Mainstream Marketing UK Ltd 0845 201 0070 07788 426066 www.msm-uk.co.uk www.twitter.com/MSMUK

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Tom (THE HARRIER!) Brown

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I agree the social networks need to protect members otherwise members will simply leave. The problems of managing a site or a forum are huge and extensive. You effectively need to create a "polocing policy" to stop unwanted elements getting under the RADAR. I have received and reported many 419 scams and other solicitations but still they appear. Screening applicants would help, perhaps by some form of verified ID or checkable credentials? I certainly maintain all members should have a personal photo Tom Brown I.Eng, FIET, MInstLM www.ConceptPromotions.com

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Andrew Coulthard

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Penny One thing is for sure...its a tough old world either out there or in here (online). Over the years society has become used to greater freedoms and with that we are faced with stronger controls by Government. Our response to these freedoms and controls depends upon our character, up bringing and experiences. Just like the real world, the internet cannot be policed so that no abuse can occur. Just like the real world, our online lives demand that we respect and tolerate the views of others as equal in value to our own. And just like the real world it requires the greater good of the community to outweigh the isolated cases of wrong doing. You and Thomas have built a village, created a community, provided roads and street lamps, parks and open spaces, a chance to meet and trade and in some ways a community police force to watch over your village. Penny, you cannot stamp out 'crime' in your village as it is human nature for some to become anti social, but this doesn't make it a bad place to 'live and work'. There are good people all around you on here. Andrew Coulthard MBA FCMI Managing Director Futura UK Ltd +44 7732 783090

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Penny Power

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Wow, Martin. So sorry to hear about your neighbor and how hideous to live with this Is it rediculous for us to expect a Charter on social networking sites about what behavior IS acceptable and allow the 'citizens' to feedback when a person is acting outside f these and ask them to change or leave! What worries me about how experience and your suggestion is that we could all reduce to shouting and bullying, and perhaps that is what is happening in the offline world, a me, me attitude that deteriorates society massively. I can tell you are hurt and also totally fed up, but I don't think you wold like yourself if you became like him. Warm regards Penny Power +447771 543478 Founder-Ecademy Supporting Business People

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Martin Dilworth

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I am Ex Military, Ex Boxer, I am a P.T.I and I am not scared of anything, but I am being BULLIED by my next door neighbour, Why? How So? Because he is a knows that he can within the law do annoying things to me in the knowledge that I can do nothing about it. I cant go to the Police as what he is doing is not AGAINST the law just againt normal common curtisy, He has a 'F' you boxer boy mentality, If I give him a freindly slap, I go to prison! I can do nothing to protect myself, Law cant help and today's society has no manners and respect. There is NO consiquence for bad actions, teachers can do nothing, parents do nothing , the Police do nothing, we all end up doing NOTHING, well except moaning about events that we do NOTHING about changing. We have created the content of your discussion by doing NOTHING. STOP talking and DO SOMETHING!! If someone bullies you, bully them back untill they stop. Make a consequence for unacceptable behaviour. I am not suggesting Violence here BUT if the human race realise that at base level they will have to deal with some unfavourable consiquence to their actions, they may think twice. People given the chance will bully, they will take the piss, they will act inapropriatley! Put consequenses for actions back and then you will see change. It will never happen as, people will go TOO far with consequence, so instead we have what we have, evolution, you CANT stop it. DEPRESSING really. M

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renu verma

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Renu Verma Hello Mrs Power, I am really glad to see your message and your blog. Its really good. Well i found ecademy 100% professional and i would always love to stay connected with you. I would really wish to meet you as i am gonna apply student visa soon of London and hopfuly i will be there till January. Keep it up. Good luck for all. Regards, Renu Verma

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Robert Bridge

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Good question Penny and great topic, what comes to mind is other sites I have been on an perhaps taking little peices of evolved wisdom from them, What comes to mind when talking about young communities is the places where young people are. That being said anywhere where there is activityand high end knowledge about technology and people sharing and understanding new technology the etiquette is very diverse. So looking and asking the right people who have experience with these types of locations would be the best place to ask. One person who could probably asnwer that question is Locker Gnome. His team or communities as it may be is supported by people are watchers on the forums who challenge people about ideas and blog posts. Offering reward systems is good and support links where people can have direct access to say something like a Hostgator support forum or Microsoft again would be very helpful especially if someone is having such a problem. Policing these types of borders is I think having intuitive people trained to know the tell tail signs before they happen. Bullying online it seems can mean so many things and teaching people moving into the technology landscape and what you have already revealed in your lectures and books is outstanding, for example knowing the types of people online and the terminolgy and knowledge of internet based talk they use then explaining that to someone who feels intimidated by a post could release the tension and relieve any misinterpratation. That is not to say anything should be underestimated in anyway, and as a team builder and scout for new working members being aware of these principles you speak of will train others in understanding the problem. Hard hitters are the solution for bullies, people who know how to spot signs of agression before it grows. Afterall most bullies are very weak and emotional and when challenged will soon fizzle away. Truth, light and security will also help solve this problem. I think, but do not have enough experience to comment anymore really. Perhaps even by channelling any aggression before it grows could help aggressive people stop and create solutions to this problem before it gets out of hand, afterall the heroes of this world and role models are a bit bizzare to say the least. The good thing is we can create our own worlds, safe places where people can happily play and grow in the wonderful abundance of what technology is providing, what you are providing here on Ecademy. http://twitter.com/robert_bridges

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Rajen Business & Digital Coach & Mentor Kantaria

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The members of the community should also play a part by making abuses or concerns known to the administarators. May even be worth having a special email address to be sent externally if necessary with the words like "abuse@". In addition "good practice" should be encouraged by coaching on line communities to bring to the forefront of their minds that information posted on line is visible widely and almost permanent and to take care as to what is put into the public domain part before any trusted relationships are built. Another possibility is for a group of ethical on line operators to press for an investigation force similar to that for paedophiles where abusers and stalkers can be tracked down and prosecuted and the offences well defined (and not in "woolly" terms!) whether by new legislation or extension/clarification of existing legislation. The software is of course available. Funding for this is likely to be a difficult area...but there is always a solution to a difficulty! Mind you most of the abuse by stalking is likely to be known people, so maybe we need a "Cracker"?!! Of course, it will be impossible to completely stop incidences from happening but a pro-active approach and a few high profile cases would be a very good start. It is so pleasing Penny that the the concern has been recognised by you (Ecademy) and stated. Sorry to hear about your experience. Worth showing links to this in "good" web sites? http://www.getsafeonline.org/ Rajen Kantaria Customer Interaction We Put Businesses On Line With Their Customers

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John Rice

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Penny, I have been fortunate enough to both hear you speak in person this year in Glasgow at the BNI Event with Ivan and have followed Thomas on You Tube regularly - great insight , extremely inspiring. Lovely to hear to hear you now commentating on the debate that you have inspired. At the forefront you have opened the doors to Social Media. Intimacy and community values - totally love the values that both Thomas and yourself expouse and huge fan of Ecademy. Simply not possible through Social Media - encountered invasion on several occassions ...people have slaughtered me for not 'stepping up' simply beacause I did not fancy there business propositions ....cannot be right. Where you wish to move Ecademy to a different level - beyond bullying - right behind you. Kind Regards John

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Stella Holman "The Connector"

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Dear Penny, I am sorry to hear of your cyber stalking. I have felt liked I was being stalked from time to time but believe also it could be imagination.;-) I haven't experienced cyber bullying. I had a weird experience with someone on a site to learn a language. I was interested to improve my Spanish and I was contacted by someone in Argentina who had got my mobile number and kept calling me up. Seemed to be one of those situations where they thought if they found an English person and built a relationship they could get over to the UK. This man picked the wrong person in me, especially that week as I had lost my voice and couldn't talk, so they got fed-up with calling. I have had people turn up at events as a result of my postings on social networks but this hasn't un-nerved me as I have always been with other people, so offline I arrange to meet other people or go to the event with others. Actually, I believe that it is up to all of us as individuals to act with due diligence with regards to networking on and offline Best wishes Stella Holman-TheConnector . Let's connect! at the CONNECTOR-TRADING CLUB #CONNECTOR-TRADING GROUP Twitter and Facebook Marketing http://plancast.com/stellaholman Social Media Assistant -UK Representative - Geert Conard Management Solutions UK Agent for BGifts | Belgian Gifts & Incentives Would you like to save money on better TRAVEL?

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John Gelmini

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Penny, If the users were children or vulnerable adults you have an absolute duty to protect them. However you are dealing with independent businesses and businesspeople who are presumably over 21 and able to look after themselves. You can have a code of ethics,a code of conduct and use responsible language. Also you can set the bar higher for membership in much the same way as I control those who I mix with in my local which happens to be the Letchworth Hall Hotel. There the price of drinks and the adjacent golf club setting militate against having to mix with ruffians ,people of ill repute or anyone troublesome /incapable of behaving properly. Beyond that I think you cannot and should not go. Regards John (JOHN A GELMINI)

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Alan Bowman

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Dear Penny I am sorry that you are the victim of a stalker on your mobile and whoever it is must be a real sad person who needs help because what you and Thomas and your team have created only deserves praise, edification and emulation in all that any of us do. Kindest regards Alan

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Carole Railton

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Penny How horrid, hope it stops soon. The police now have some additional powers to deal with this and I do think you ought to approach them. Yes, its the tax payer that will pick up the bill. If it were in the playground it would be the tax payer too, this is no different, adults or children using this type of behaviour need to be stopped asap. To help prevent it we have to be open and honest, Open and Random is the way forward and it is working, sorting out these 'niggles' will make the whole of networking stronger in the long run. It has been suggested that the people who use this bullying style are actual without ego, and are just chasing the egos of the person they are stalking. Therefore, asking, praying for this person to have their own strong ego/identity may well help on an energetic level. I tried this when I was stalked. The trouble with internet stalking is you cannot put a camera outside your house to track the stalker, but you can most certainly tag them and I wonder if you could ask questions in a blog about them? Hope this quickly sorts itself out Penny, and someone comes up with a solution for you. carole x Carole Railton Behaviourist

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Penny Power

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The comments on this Blog are providing fantastic insights and I have heard many discussions are occuring as a result on other forums and offline. I think there are a number of points being raised. 1. Some say people should 'man up' and not be so easily upset 2. Some say that we can never deal with this as the offline world has shown us that nasty people exist anywhere 3. Some people's comments- I feel are not completely aware of the gravity of this problem and that we are not talking about isolated debates that get heated, we are talking about situations where the 'stalker' and obsessive individual is actually demaging the mind and spirit of their 'victim'. I think in the offline world we do have a way of helping people that are victims in this way. What I do like is that the majority have faith in the future and know that in the long term we will collectively find a way forward and that a 'mad max' type of world will not reign online. That comforts me. However, I do believe that a 'code of honour' a belief system does need to be introduced, and as idealist and as naive this may sound, I am committed to this. I would like to know when I visit a site what they 'allow'. Once I was very badly attached on a site where I was a 'Guest Blogger' the editor called me apologized and asked ME if I would like it taken down. My reply was, "please don' give me that responsibility, I do not want to control your policy, it is up to you to decide what is acceptable in your business". I know this is not an easy task, but them I never expect easy! Please do keep on talking, the research and learning for me and others on this is fantastic Warm regards Penny Power +447771 543478 Founder-Ecademy Supporting Business People

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Peter Syme

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Reading the comments below my personal view is probably going to run against the grain a bit. Of course their is a future for the online world a huge one and one that I am pretty sure none of knows what it will be like in ten years time. In any society you are going to get wasters who take advantage of situations, environments and tools in order to further their own ends and inflict pain on others. However, lets get this into perspective. How many are doing this compared to the hundreds of millions , probably billions that are using the net in positive ways? That fact does not help those at the end of bullying or abuse which should not be be put up with by anyone. I also know that every individual deals with these situations in a different manner. To put it a bit more into perspective consider online versus offline. How many people offline are been abused by systematic systems, regimes, and organized crime around the world. Daily rape , beatings, murder and intimidation on a scale that would give anyone nightmares. I am not disregarding the points made by the OP and other commentators, it is serious and it is an issue, however, please keep it in perspective. With regards the issue of owners of online communities being responsible. I have always taken the view that communities should be responsible for themselves. If you start to police the net to firmly you will play into the hands of governments and big business. I do agree as the net develops you are going to see crime and very bad things develop on a very large scale. However, I think the benefits and the good things that it brings will out weight the bad. Life online/offline same as it ever was. Peter Gobi2011

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Andrew Field

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Excellent blog and responses. Unfortunately, in my humble opinion, cyberspace will continue to allow social misfits to fester and in some cases this will lead to stalking and anti-social behaviour within social networks. That phenomenon should most certainly be checked. The problem is that stalking and anti-social behaviour take so little courage to perpetrate and are in fact cowardly...it is so easy to go out of character and become a menace that way. Social networks do have a responsibility to protect their subscribers/members and this can only be achieved by having adequate reporting conduits to get to those who can act, when stalkers and abusers decide to target any individual or group. Be careful though, it places the onus on social network owners to exercise some judgment, it opens up the gambit of false reporting to score against others and if not properly 'policed' will turn into a bigger nightmare for social net-work owners than those supposedly stalked or abused. There is certainly no easy solution. I guess the use of the 'Help Line' concept would not be misplaced on social networks. With kind regards, Andrew Field With a passion as warm as the rising African Sun upon your face Harare, Zimbabwe

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Andrew Field

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Excellent blog and responses. Unfortunately, in my humble opinion, cyberspace will continue to allow social misfits to fester and in some cases this will lead to stalking and anti-social behaviour within social networks. That phenomenon should most certainly be checked. The problem is that stalking and anti-social behaviour take so little courage to perpetrate and are in fact cowardly...it is so easy to go out of character and become a menace that way. Social networks do have a responsibility to protect their subscribers/members and this can only be achieved by having adequate reporting conduits to get to those who can act, when stalkers and abusers decide to target any individual or group. Be careful though, it places the onus on social network owners to exercise some judgment, it opens up the gambit of false reporting to score against others and if not properly 'policed' will turn into a bigger nightmare for social net-work owners than those supposedly stalked or abused. There is certainly no easy solution. I guess the use of the 'Help Line' concept would not be misplaced on social networks. With kind regards, Andrew Field With a passion as warm as the rising African Sun upon your face Harare, Zimbabwe

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Alan Bowman

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Hi Penny and everyone else Very interesting blog and comments and the sad thing is that in a democracy of any kind it is those who are happy to truck along together being suppotive or agreeing to differ that get shafted by the malicious and mendacious in society. It is the same when you look at the tyrants of history and their cohorts, for a short time they are in the ascendant but every monstorous leader or society has succumbed or will in the end succumb to the good in the vast majority of us. Ghandi is the perfect example of goodness and peaceful resistance and the knack on line I have found is just to leave those who want to stir it get on with it and continue to do the right thing in whatever it is you are involved, you will be amazed at how over time you will always win.

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Steve Hall

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A very timely blog. I was the target of an attempted "attack" on another forum today. It's the culmination of a series of snide attacks by somebody who is a moderator of a sub-forum where she frankly has little specialist knowledge. She seems to resent the input of people who know the answers and today I took the last of her gauche jibes. In this case, the owner of the site has by his own admission absolutely zero knowledge of this sub-forum and has seemingly abdicated all responsibility to its moderators. To him it is simply a revenue generator. He has just ignored my overview of the damage she has done to his forum and why I will no longer contribute to the forum. His shout. No sweat. Well, I am big enough and ugly enough to ignore the whole incident, forget it quickly and luxuriate in the extra 45 minutes or so of time I now have each day. BUT BUT BUT both this incident and Penny's question have set me thinking. What if it were somebody less thick-skinned than I am, what if it were somebody who relied on referrals/business from the forum? Worse still - what if it were somebody who is genuinely upset by the repeated jibes and puerile attacks? What if it were somebody who really took it to heart? I was only reading last week of a Swede who took his life after a FB incident and recently I read of a Norwegian girl who tried to commit suicide after her ex "paraded" his new girlfriend on FB only as "in a relationship with ......" As Dylan (?) sang, "The times they are a-changing" and they are changing ..fast BUT we are still talking about basic and eternal human instincts. Fear/security/the need to be loved or respected etc Yes, an interesting blog and after todays spat one I will follow with more interest than I otherwise might have done. I am glad that Ecademy is in the safe hands of Penny, Thomas and their team. Kind Regards Steve Hall Follow my CYCLE journey through England (and beyond!) to raise awareness of the world´s 45 million refugees. Please visit:www.theshirt2010.co.uk

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Andreas Wiedow

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@ What do you think the responsibility of the 'network' owners should be. Run the network and ensure that terms and conditions are being adhered to. Terms and conditions which should be kept as simple as possible. @ how could they protect their members Keep out of dramas. @ and ensure that the good promise of this 'connected world' is achieved? What is 'the good promise', please ? Mature networks display a high degree of self-moderation and should employ professional moderators on a level of eg. Nick Braak who have the brains to investigate properly without drawing false conclusions and starting drama themselves. Paid. No volunteers. Penny, you and I are members of a network we both know very well and where we both could witness that the management allowed a member of the best practice team to investigate against and even trigger management questioning of a member which was based on totally wrong assumptions. You have no idea what damage that has caused. If you would have been on the board and could have the chance to influence that, what would you have done ? Penny ? . . . And . . . I must say . . . now that the days are getting shorter, the season of the nights with the long knives seems to be around the corner. The core topic of this blog is negative. The harvest will be likewise.

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Wayne Conyers

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I actually think this should be the first blog you read if your just starting the journey into this world of social media. Too often people are keen to sign up to everything, with real information and personal details without a thought - then that information is out there ready to be picked up by those who's only intention is to cause aggregation and torment. My first rule has always been to search google with "wayne conyers". It's taken me a day before just to see what links are where and what information is readily available. My first tip would be to stalk yourself. See what you can find out about you. You may even be surprised and a little worried in places. This has to be an important starting place, if your not stalking yourself you cannot see what your putting out there in the general world. I don't agree with dampening your input although can only imagine the damage a online stalker can do. The difference is in the real world you can change your movements and your habits, you can take a different route to the shops you can look around you, you are more aware of your surroundings. On-line in many cases you are flying blind, people can work behind the scenes constantly, they don't need to know where you are, because you are there all the time. Even when on-line So remember The web never sleeps You need to stalk yourself, and rectify any information out there which is easily seen - think about it. thanks Penny, I think its a really relevant point and having my website attacked twice in the last month just makes it a little more relevant. thanks Wayne Euworld Solutions European and World IT Support Solutions

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Iain McGuigan

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At the moment the internet is a lawless society. Steve makes a good point here. The internet is like the new Frontier of our age, a few brave souls make the early going and then all and sundry jump in when they think their might be a pot of gold to be had. The Gold rush if you will. As with the gold rush where the people who made the money did so by supplying the prospectors rather than joining them there are a range of people who make their money on the internet by feeding off the frenzy. The forums are the Saloon bars of the new frontier with plenty of carousing, high jinks, positioning, ego, and agressiveness as well as passifiers

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Jeff Mowatt

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In spite of the seriousness of the topic, I have to admit to giggling at the thought of Facebook values. In the case I described in our community the mother of the boy being targeted discovered from one of those Facebook prediction games that her end would come by assassination. I was able to reassure her that in spite of the threats to burn down the house, one needed to be famous to perish this way. She should be safe if she managed not to excel at anything, like most of us. At one level, we can think of it as being merely an arrangement of characters on a screen, it still hurts nevertheless to think that others may take it seriously and I know it has deterred organisations from doing business with us on the no smoke without fire basis. Directed at me are accusations of fabricating a humanitarian crisis to make money and a suggestion that I molested two children in my home. They come from a minor politician hiding behind the skirts of his barrister sister who has gone as far as to threaten litigation by telephone. I'm in to mood for outing both of them pretty soon.

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Penny Power

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I agree Andrew and I guess this highlights the pain that can be caused through words on the Internet perfectly. They can sound so harsh when the person reads them, I am sure they are not meant when written. I try to write as the reader. Warm regards Penny Power +447771 543478 Founder-Ecademy Supporting Business People

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Sally Asling

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Good Discussion point. Online behaviour is interesting. Its all you say it is. However there is a certain amount of "taking ownership for yourself" online too. For example, I used to tweet my every viewing, lots of my applicant know I am on Twitter so if I was late (it happens, not often but it happens) I get a shitty tweet about how SurreyLets is late. Not publicity, but if we are online open and transparent, it can happen. What I did not expect was a nasty incident using 4Square. I use the word Nasty, nothing happened, it was more a case of it frightened me and so I dont use it now. Why should the world know where I am! There are sites that are online that are almost "hate" campaigns. Check out the one about Foxtons. Indeed a company I worked for 5 years ago has a terrible comment about me, utterly incorrect and based on a tenants frustration with a Landlord and nothing to do with me, but as head of the lettings department they had my name so hey presto! If you run a business online then you may get criticism online. None of us want it, we do all we can in our business to avoid it, but if someone is disgruntled we cant stop it. It its lies we can have it legally removed, but its not as easy as that if the parties wont come to an agreement. You mention a freind considering ending her life. Really? Over online behaviour? What did she do to cause that - if something is affecting her business and its because someone has written something true about her then she needs to grow up and deal with it or if its untrue take legal action? Sounds highly dramatic and emotional and a little unbalanced to think of ending her life - which if its over online things then she should go offline for a while and seriously grow a backbone to defend herself. We need better education about being online. Its a scary scary place where pedophiles lurk and nasty people create false personas and befriend you, where crazed people want to "be your freind" - education is needed to teach people about online safety and how to be a little bit savvy. I also think the word "Stalker" is becoming over used. I had an ex freind once who after months of friendship decided to call me one. I am still thinking how slanderous that was and how utterly ridiculous that somone would say that because something flipped in their head and they didn't want any contact with me for whatever reason but instead of talking it through decided to shout stalker and harassment at me. I think people on line give perhaps too much away (I have been guilty of this too) and then when they dont want the contact shout "Stalker" when perhaps it just needs a sensible approach. I could scream "Stalker" at the man who decided he liked my online profile enough to be my "freind" on four square and turn up at a viewings just as a "joke" to show me he could. I found it frightening and unnerving, even though he was "Mr funny and Mr polite and mearly "making a point" I soon deleted my Facebook profile in a panic and unfollowed where possible. Penny, I think the online world is fraught with danger and people need a degree of protecting, but more so than that people need to know what to share, how to engage and to take self responsibility. Ecad, FB can all have safety measures, but what people post and share about themselves you cant control. No one can. The Internet has become an adult version of the school playground where they can hang out and meet people and like and dislike and make freinds and fall out and no self respecting adult would possibly do it in "real life" but taking a break from the mundane world they get involved in online communities. To hear people are thinking of ending their life though? If that person is a child then they need some help and support, if its an adult they need to deal with things in an adult way.

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Penny Power

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It sounds like there is a consensus on the need for education and empowerment, which I whole-heartedly agree with. However, perhaps what isn't being made clear in my thoughts is that I am talking about times when someone is stalking and using very clever means to under-mine and damage someone. This is very different to occasionally debates that get over-heated. I think this goes beyond toughening someone up educating them on how to 'cope' with the new world. There are no laws and rules online (yet) and while Cornelis may think that sounds like Government. I have to say that perhaps it is a type of Government! We have to look forwards and see the problems that are going to be created and take social responsibility for this. In the UK there are ASBO's I wonder if that will come into the online world, I am aware that someone who is bad on one network is also victimizing others on other networks. While I am not into naming and shaming, I do fear that we are playing to the strength of these 'people' and allowing them the freedom to hurt and create pain. Again, tough for anyone to have empathy with this unless they have been on the receiving end of it. Warm regards Penny Power +447771 543478 Founder-Ecademy Supporting Business People

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No one ever seems to care or do anything when I report that I have been falsely accused and overtly bullied on public forums by gangs of organised nasties. YOU DON'T KNOW ME -- YOU PROBABLY DON'T LIKE ME I DO NOT WANT YOU FOLLOWING ME I may invite you here if your "blogs" are interesting enough: New forum here.

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Norman Feiner

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Truly sorry to hear of your anxieties Penny and I cannot imagine what it must be like to be on the receiving end of malicious, abusive, bullying or threatening calls & emails.. Technology has opened up a new world of possibilities but, by definition, it can also create many problems. We are aware that with the enormously increased levels of online Social Media, mobiles and fixed-line communications, cyber harassment is on the increase.. The abuse can take place in many areas: Nasty or threatening text messages and emails The malicious posting of humiliating videos or pictures online Abusive messages posted online on social networking sites or chat rooms Setting up 'hate groups' on social networking sites or even pure Identity fraud - be it online socially or professionally Although also difficult, in the slightly more matured market of fixed-line telecoms that my company SimplyFone is a long-established provider, there are steps and procedures already in place to help, counteract and prevent continuing abuse (anyone suffering these problems is welcome to contact me personally for assistance) However, Cyber bullying is a problem partly due to the very real fact that it is relatively simple for the bully to remain pretty anonymous. So what can be done? Firstly it should be said, that abuse of this kind must never be ignored and certainly even more so if (your) children are complaining about any type of online bullying (it may be pertinent to actually 'ask' your kids if they've ever suffered …) If you are unfortunate enough to be the target of cyber bullying, online or via a mobile phone, it is important to report it as soon as possible to your service provider - mobile or ISP. The temptation may be to respond - this is a mistake as the perpetrator WANTS a response! Ignore the online messages and try to block them (often easier said than done) Keep every bullying message, save all their posts or pictures. Make a note of times and dates and as much information as you can get about their sender ID If possible, (and often a last resort as your numbers and IDs, nicknames & profiles are so important to you), try to change all usernames and passwords & amend, even if ever so slightly, your online name.. Finally, as a good check why not Google yourself or your company or website or Facebook page every so often or set up Google alerts & if you're unhappy with what you find - make changes. We can't stop bullying, in any areas of our lives - online, telecoms, socially & in business, but at least we can do our level bests to act judiciously to prevent it! _____________________________________

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Jeff Mowatt

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In spite of the seriousness of the topic, I have to admit to giggling at the thought of Facebook values. In the case I described in our community the mother of the boy being targeted discovered from one of those Facebook prediction games that her end would come by assassination. I was able to reassure her that in spite of the threats to burn down the house, one needed to be famous to perish this way. She should be safe if she managed not to excel at anything, like most of us. At one level, we can think of it as being merely an arrangement of characters on a screen, it still hurts nevertheless to think that others may take it seriously and I know it has deterred organisations from doing business with us on the no smoke without fire basis. Directed at me are accusations of fabricating a humanitarian crisis to make money and a suggestion that I molested two children in my home. They come from a minor politician hiding behind the skirts of his barrister sister who has gone as far as to threaten litigation by telephone. I'm in to mood for outing both of them pretty soon.

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Carolyn Williams

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I see this in the workplace. I see this on networks. I see this on ecademy. I see this online. Support changes through... Empowerment through education. Assertiveness Self Awareness I lectured these at College Penny. I now empower others to stand up to bullies!. Great awareness blog. C:)x Carolyn, helping you to #Sparkle with Confidence on Social Media www.lifestyle-online.co.uk www.facebook.com/LifestyleOnline

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Richard Singleton

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Hi Penny, I am sorry to hear of your cyber stalking. I am fortunate that I have never been stalked or bullied here or in any other networks. Maybe that is because I keep my head below the parapet and make dull / uncontroversial blogs! However I do think that the network owners / platform providers do have a responsibility. Initially the 'report abuse' button and the availability of someone who really will take onboard someone's complaint / fears / problems on the network are a good start. Also that the community (here anyway) is supportative although I have seen things get a little heated in the past. At Ecademy I guess you just about have it right, but being adaptable to changing situations must be an important factor for keeping it so. And thanks for creating and maintaining such a great, safe, enjoyable place full of amusing, pleasant, helpful people. Regards.... Richard Singleton Digital design. SEO, eMarketing and I.T. Consultancy - making web sites work! Doing I.T. for business for over 25years! SAVE TIME, TRAVEL & MONEY WITH WEBOFFICE http://www.singleton.uk.com Beautiful Holiday Apartment to rent in Bosa, North West coast of Sardinia Apartments, Villas and B&B in Bosa, Sardinia

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Demos Flouri

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Great blog and well timed, I am sure you know what I mean, I find it to be jealousy. People go around just trying to tarnish someone's reputation that they spent so long and hard trying to build. Its more childish behaviour also. Facebook and all other sites need to monitor the usage, I am sure facebook have or could have a team dedicated to it. There needs to be instant ability to report abuse and that it is taken seriously, the same goes for phone companies. People text and abuse you and its not nice, its terrifying. A lot needs to change and a lot needs to be done. Warm Regards Demos Flouri Web Design | SEO | Logo Design | Leaflet Design | Graphic Design T: 0845 108 6168 DDI: 020 3348 8868 M: 07985 736 168

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Jeff Mowatt

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Is there a future for the online world if we don't protect the u

The problem with community values Penny is that a community may not feel bound by them. I've written often on the experience of being targeted elsewhere but then I'm rather sticking my neck out in what we try to do. http://www.ecademy.com/node.php?id=156095 In another recent post, 'Abrogation of social networking responsibility' I've described how little other major networks commit to. I'm only one man who seems to have started a battle on about 4 fronts and I think I'm making headway. Imagine what half a dozen of us might do, with a little commitment.

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