What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Today my youngest daughter is 16 and I am remembering how I was at her age, very different in many ways. I hear there is a new book where celebrities write a letter to their 16 year old self.
As my daughters sleep I am reflecting what I would say to my 16 year old self.

Dear Jo
I would love you to know you are not alone, you will meet others who share your dreams and passions. Your darkest feelings and thoughts can be changed, you can give yourself the love you are looking from in others.
You are totally lovable and deserve to be loved and cherished, please be gentle with yourself and remember always to trust yourself.
And the great news is whatever happens to you, you will survive!
with great compassion
yourself in the future

What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Maurice Poole

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Despite what I said >>> and I stand by that in principle, I might usefully have said (because it is my middle name and no-one uses it so that's helpful), as Joyce Grenfell said, "George... don't do that." No-one knew for sure what she meant us to understand then and I'm not telling now.

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CHRIS VOSS

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Quit F*cking around and learn to be an Entrepreneur now.

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Gareth Kane

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

"Seriously, you are wasting your time, she's not interested." ;-)

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RealSteveHolmes Fading away soon

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Be true to yourself, only yourself, and keep your word to others. Any relationships you have involve agreements which you must never break, even if they were never explicit. You do not bring children into this world and then unsettle them by moving house all the time or divorcing before they are young adults. All relationships involve promises you made. All states of being involve votes you have already cast. You are free, but only free to keep your word. Anything else leads to tragedy for someone.

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Fraser Hay

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Dear Fraser You've lost an eye having been shot. You will now look differently on everything in your world. Keep your other eye safe and remember to look inward as much as you look outward. For many of the opportunities you seek, will come from within and many of the riches you yearn, will be the rewards of the many lessons you will endure and learn. When things get hard, you will look for something or someone to blame. The world isn't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it... You've gotta hit as hard as life. It isn't about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much can you take and keep moving forward? If you know what you're worth, Go out and Get What Your Worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointing fingers saying you aren't where you wanna be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and they aren't you. You're better than that. Now, what's the next goal or objective that you want to achieve? Love Fraser P.s. Thanks Rocky ;)

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Alan Rae - Business Communicator

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Don't give up the Piano. I don't need to tell you anything else - you'll work it out fine for yourself

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Jonnie Jensen

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

There are a few things I would say to myself: 1. Don't get hung up on relationships ending. It was fun, now move on! 2. Believe your dreams can happen and follow them with vengeance 3. Do the Landmark Forum 4. Enjoy it, you are about to have some serious fun! I dont really have any regrets except for being overly upset about relationships ending. Probably wasted a fair bit of time and underperformed during those days. Other than that it is been one hell of a journey so far.

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Louisa Miles

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Great Blog, Thanks Jo for sharing and timely for me too, surfing through! My son asked me the same question on Sunday, my reply was worry less and live in the moment more, people on the whole are good and always remember you are brilliant at something. Then he showed me this Dear 16-year-old Me He posted it to his facebook to share with his friends and I said, "I hope my parents were as proud of me when I was 16 as I am of him...." Always learning :)

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Danielle de Valera

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

I'd say, Stop worry about how you look. Later, when you look at photographs of yourself taken at this age, you'll realise you were beautiful. Danielle

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Tania Harvey

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Dear Tania, Everything is going to happen for a reason and whilst you may have some lows, they will teach you loads, you will also have some fantastic experiences and highs. The important thing is to remain true to yourself and your values and don't accept second best EVER! It's going to be a heck of a ride but you will enjoy every minute of it and bring your own inimitable style to everything you do. Go get it girl! Love you loads Tania x

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ed percival

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Jo this is brilliant, thank you. I sent healing back in time to myself for when i had a heart attack. and your message "I will survive" I shall write a blog about trusting yourself today - thanks for the inspiration Ed

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Tom Evans

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

A shaman once taught me how to send real messages backwards and forwards in time to yourself (and others) - neat trick I use a lot and even teach these days ... Thanks for re-minding me to do it more often ...

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Nick Dewey

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Man you are too cool for school !!

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Katie-Ellen Hazeldine

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Like Simon, I'd probably tell myself not to worry so much. Not everything that I felt was my own stuff or belonged on my shoulders, relax, go more freely.

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Tracey Finlay

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Hey, Demos wouldn't take that advice even now......! ;o)

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Jo Berry

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Thanks Demos for commenting, great answer! Made me wonder whether your 16 year old would have taken your advice!! Warmest wishes Jo

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Demos Flouri

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

No do not do that, its not a good idea, do the opposite :-)

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Sam Borrett

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Lovely post Jo, I don't have any daughters but would wish them all you said. Samx

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Tracey Finlay

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Hey Jo, I have two daughters - aged 11 and 12... so I get a lot of practice. When I tell them this stuff, I'm telling my 11 and 12 year old self. x

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Tracey Finlay

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Love this blog Jo! I'd say... Love yourself Don't assume everyone else is more right than you Trust your intuition - It knows what it's doing Read 'The Man in the Arena'... and then go for it! No power is stronger than the power within yourself You're going to be just fine x

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John Paul

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

...Hi Jo, there's a slight degree of flippancy there but mostly it's advice I would give myself (or anyone else). Best, John

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John Paul

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

...Read, think, do, travel, connect, don't rebuke offers of intercourse through seriousness because you'll regret it when you're twice as old BUT above all else follow your instinct as it's your only true gyro...

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Mike "Freddie" Gordon

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Carpe diem .. every diem @@@@

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Jo Berry

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Thanks everyone I am very moved.

Thanks everyone who have contributed to this blog. I am very touched by your honesty and wisdom. I am humbled by all you have shared and I am very moved, What a special community this is, so many warm, open, wise people, who have experienced much of life's rich tapestry. Warmest wishes Jo

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Paul Norman

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

I would say this. Do exactly as you did the last time. However, you are not allowed to know what you did the last time.

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Marius Amado-Alves

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Easy: don't give up on a musical career.

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Beth Burgess

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Great blog Jo. And some great answers on here! Dear 16-yr-old Beth, The next 10 years or so are going to be hell. Chin up, you make it out alive ;) Love, Future Beth It took me a while to realise it, but if my ability to feel such deep compassion now, my drive to make a difference and to help others now, my utter appreciation of freedom, other people and peace of mind now is a product of where I've been, then I don't want to alter my journey, no matter how painful it was. And at 16 I wouldn't have listened anyway.. ;)

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Mick Say

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Dear Mick Put that cigarette out !!! and save 20% of everything you earn Your future self ......

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Derek Watkins

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Wow Jo that is so touching I think that I would be saying very similar things that I say to one of my sons today. You are special, however sometimes you don't make it easy for people to tell you that, go easy on yourself and others, enjoy life and learn that life is a balance, you get out what you put into it and others. You have a wonderful opportunity in front of you and you will always be loved.

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Richard J Francis

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Dear Richard, Don't be in such a hurry to pass sentence Be brave in your convictions If you like them - spend more time with them - screw the little tin god of other's opinion.. ...Oh & for God's sake - lose the two year old Green Flash tennis shoes with the soles separating from the uppers. I know that lass you snogged signed them for you and you feel like 'The Ramones' wearing them - but they really do stink out the whole house worse than a semi-incontinent labrador! Yours - the world..

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Mike Morrison

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Dear Mike make time for the following on a daily basis: laugh smile (do this at least 5 times a day) play talk to friends take at least one risk Work is not all we are led to believe - better to live than "work" Spend time with your kids - yes you will have 3 gorgeous girls and most importantly of all - don't take too many things so seriously ps - you are dyslexic - if you don't believe this and take action now you wont find out until you are 27 and life can be easier if you and others know!

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Simon Harding

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

'Don't worry so much.'

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Alan Bowman

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@ Alan What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Well Alan For sure you must have enjoyed it all but not to excess cause for sure it all turned out ok and love the Ping. Cheers Alan

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Alan Bowman

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Dear Jo Great question and here would be my missive to me. Dear Alan LSG (Little Scots Guy) Love your family and friends and cherish all of them. Read learn and understand and always ask what, when, where and why and listen, oh do please listen, to the answers because the wisdom of crowds is by far superior to that of any one person. Never believe any politician or the press and always explore the subject and find a great mentor who has no ego. Cheers Alan (Oh to be 16 again)

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Alan Stevens

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Memo to my 16-year old self: Do it exactly as you did it before. The drugs, the alcohol, the parties, the fast cars, the girls. You turned out OK. Oh yes, and avoid anything to do with religion. And don't read The Daily Mail. Best wishes Alan

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Thomas Power

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

work very hard, study, avoid alcohol, keep fit, meditate daily, walk alot, spend time with friends, build a network for life.

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William Buist

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

"Whatever you do, do it by choice and on purpose." William Buist Follow me >

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Emma James

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Great question Jo

funnily enough, I did just this while working with Jackie Bastin, earlier this year, after a rock bottom personal trauma (in brief, my fiancee did a runner shortly before I was due to relocate to be with him and that's all I have to say on the the matter). http://www.jackiebastin.co.uk/ We did a lot of work around past issues and one of the things we did was to go back so I could speak to myself around that age to coincide with a difficult phase in my life and unblock the memories/patterns it had instilled. Jackie uses a range of techniques and the advantage of this type of approach is that you can touch the pain and operate from the heart without pushing the feelings that emerge away (our natural instinct is to block and avoid pain at all costs and move from pain into numbness, how much easier to cut off than to sit in feelings which are too painful?) That said, I wouldn't want to repeat the process often, it was still painful even though I was under a guided meditation. I remember only too well what what I was like at 16, pretty wild but it was great fun :) and very much part of growing up and learning through my mistakes so any advice I would give to "me" now at that age, I wouldn't heed anyway. It's only through hindsight and the wisdom age confers, we learn to listen to our inner voice a bit more. I'm still making mistakes now mind. Follow @MassageBucks Massage Therapy British Naturism

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Martin Dewhurst

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Great idea Jo, Here's mine ... Dear Martin, You're going to experience great contrasts, be prepared. When you're in the high points, think about those experiencing their own low points and when you're at your own low points, remember there's always people worse off than you. Follow your heart uncompromisingly, learn to know your hearts voice and hear its wisdom. When you reach the ripe old age of 37 you'll arrive at a crossroads, pay extra attention to all you're learning at this point and whatever you do take the right turn, not the left!!!! At this point you'll already have everything you ever dreamed of, so nurture it, protect it and be selfless at all costs. In fact, tattoo this somewhere discreet "age 37, take the right turn". Meditate every day and when you can't, do a moving meditation instead. Appreciate nature and care for it. Exercise every day and when you can't, make up for it the following day, no excuses. :-) Martin

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Andreas Wiedow

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What would you say to your 16 year old self?

Let me put it this way . . . :-)

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